Making HERstory Out of History
Women today are making history in politics, business, nonprofits, and the arts. I know because I talk to them every week.
That’s why I couldn’t resist the Women Making History: HERstory title, here. It reflects how I feel about the accomplishments of so many of my women friends and colleagues.
These are women who are not afraid of fierce conversations!
Let’s talk about that – Fierce Conversations and how they start from a place of strength.
Susan Scott, author of a book called Fierce Conversations – Achieving Success at Work and in Life, One Conversation at a Time, tells us, in her preface,
“When you think of a fierce conversation, think passion, integrity, authenticity, collaboration. Think cultural transformation. Think of leadership.”
Among the many books on the bookcase in my small office, this one speaks to me with power and authority.
Harriet Beecher Stowe
The conversation around women’s rights, women in positions of authority, and women commanding the respect they deserve, is nothing new. We can look back at one of my favorite women’s rights advocates, Harriet Beecher Stowe, novelist and abolitionist, who said, “Women are the real architects of society.” I can hear her telling people that, I hear her voice, full of power and strength and purpose. I see her standing tall, unafraid, speaking to a crowd likely full of naysayers- of both genders. She is looking forward, in my imaginary scene, not just at the crowd, or the dirt field people are gathered in. She is looking forward to the future. A future that allows women to vote, to hold property, and even to be business owners and political leaders.
While I am most fond of the comment above, calling women architects, I discovered, via the Harriet Beecher Stowe site, an even more powerful quote, one that shows a fierceness that comes from her soul. As she was prolific in her work, she was becoming well known. This comment strikes me as very fierce, “If you see my name coming out everywhere, you may be sure of one thing. That I do it for the pay.”
I could cite other amazing women speakers, among them my own daughter, Chloe DiVita, who has been a star on stage since she was born. But, what I want to do here, at The Lipsticking Society, is show you how Women Making History: HERStory, if you will, is something all of us are doing. Right now.
The Bruise of Silence
It all starts with those fierce conversations. When we stand tall, when we meet the other person’s eyes, when we respond without shouting, we build credibility and enhance our professional standing, no matter who we are. It’s never been more apparent to me that women must command the same respect as men, in the workplace and out in the world, no matter who they are. We cannot turn away from fierce conversations, no matter how uncomfortable they may make us. We cannot ignore slights or slings and arrows, hoping they will leave less of a bruise if we are silent about them. We cannot fall back on our femininity, as if being female is a proper excuse for silence.
It’s time for all women to stand tall, stand proud, and stand together. I know that sounds like a current political tagline, but it’s so true! Together is the only way to achieve real success in anything. As we strive to build strong businesses, and to serve our communities as ambassadors of the arts, of peace, of prosperity, the only way we will both succeed at a level we can be proud of, and succeed at a level we can share with our daughters, to make them proud of us, is to have those fierce conversations, openly, honestly, and purposefully.
The world is a big place. I know we talk about the “small small world” as if it’s easy to get to Europe from Texas, when it isn’t! We talk about the communication tools of social media and how they bring us together so quickly and efficiently, when no amount of video conferencing will ever replace face-to-face decision making.
Fierce Conversations with Yourself
Have a fierce conversation with yourself today. Be the woman you’ve always wanted to be. Don’t allow others to diminish you or turn you away from the career path you’ve chosen to follow.
I wish I’d been a stronger, fiercer woman, so many years ago. Perhaps some of you do, also. How would it have changed our lives? I don’t rightly know, of course. If I look back, I realize I could have done things differently, although it didn’t seem so at the time. I was anything but fierce! I was timid and shy. I only came into my fierceness over a long career of getting coffee for others.
Women across the globe are making HERstory – in ways that will move mountains and change the course of rivers!
I’m eager to work with you, if you’re ready to do that. I’m eager to help you tell a strong, fierce story of you – in conversations that demonstrate your power, your intelligence, your purpose, and yes, your womanhood. Because, it’s being a woman that actually gives us the best of our fierceness.
Are you ready? Comment now.