When is the last time you woke up in the morning and thought, “”Wow I feel so great about myself!”? Many people that I talk with say they can’t remember the last time they felt that way. For myself, as a breast cancer survivor, I have to force myself to find something to feel good about. Some days I can do that easily. Other days I wake up and am happy to be alive so everything else falls into place.
There are likely times when you are more comfortable in your skin than others. That could be because of myriad factors — life satisfaction, work satisfaction, health satisfaction, etc. This could all hinge on where you are mentally and emotionally and those factors could impact your physical health. The month of “Pinktober” is one that brings mixed emotions to me and my breast cancer survivor sisters. We love that awareness, and hopefully, money is being raised to find a cure. It is also a month where, no matter where we turn, we see pink. You see, as a breast cancer survivor, there are times I want to forget that I had breast cancer. I want to forget how the disease has ravaged my body and taken away my sense of invincibility.
Many months of the year I can “forget” that I had breast cancer for a few hours. Once I take my medications or jump into the shower or try to find clothes and bras that fit properly that illusion of “I’m normal” are shattered, but for those few precious hours I was able to forget. During October, not so much.
For those days when you’re struggling to find ways to say, “Wow, I feel so great about myself!” here are a few tips to help you hone in on your fabulous inner you:
- What is your passion? Baking? Crocheting? Reading? Walking? Volunteering? When is the last time you pursued any of these hobbies? How did you feel when you did it? If you can’t remember the last time you enjoyed them, start today. Make time for yourself.
- This goes along with the first question, but what do you do right now — today — that makes you lose track of time? Is it any of the above or do you have different items that lure you in? Gardening? Crochet? Playing or listening to music? Exercising? Journaling? Taking the dog for a walk? Write those down and make sure you plan to do those items regularly. Pamper yourself.
- What and where is your ideal vacation spot? Is there a possibility of planning a trip? If that isn’t in the cards right now, is there anything you could do to get you in a vacation state of mind? For example, I love water and love vacations on the water. I don’t live by the water, but I could certainly hop in my car and drive for about 20 miles and be by water. I could sit and watch the waves roll in and simply relax and unwind. Is there anything like that that you could do?
- When you’re in a book store, what sections lure you? If you’re browsing magazines, which ones do you pick up first? Stop and think about this because if you’re having a hard time narrowing your passion — uncovering your true self — these simple actions might just give you insight into long buried interests or may pique new ones.
- Start keeping a gratitude journal. Believe me, I know there are some days when I you’re writing in your journal and the only thing you may be grateful for is that you didn’t spill coffee on yourself at the breakfast table, but hey, it’s something. I have found that once you start keeping a gratitude journal you become more aware of things to be grateful for. I know that even if I have had a horrible day I am still grateful for my surgeons and oncologists because without them I wouldn’t be here today. So if my daily gratitude is, “being alive another day” that is huge! Also, “being alive another day” means I probably got to talk to my kids, snuggle my poodle, enjoy a slice of pizza, etc. You may find that your gratitudes grow from your initial “being alive” statement.
Take some time to ponder your answers then put a plan in motion to make them happen. Grab a journal and take notes. Start a Pinterest board and share your ideas with the world.
Robbi Hess, Social Wordsmith, is a professional blogger, social media consultant, content strategist and creative thinker. She works with entrepreneurs providing professional writing services including: writing web copy, newsletters, guest and ghost blogging. She is also a speaker on the subjects of time management, writing and productivity.